so it’s wrong to hug other people (if you’re not single)?!

I don’t see anything wrong with it, but as it is often the case - there’s a catch.

First of all, you seem to be someone who has never been together with a really jealous person. When you’re with such folk, you get penalty points if you try to embrace the wind :-) And you can get your hand chopped off for attempting to hug another person. You can get away with “attempted hug", “unintentional hug” or “hugging while under the influence of psychotropic substances". But this is not likely to work more than once, after that you’re screwed, even if your lawyer is the devil himself.

Since you’ve already promoted them to the status of “my one and only", you could take it one step further and adapt to their needs, because they deserve it. In this case a ‘no hugs’ policy will keep the levels of adrenaline at reasonable rates, and the knives will happily reside in the kitchen, being used only for bread, vegetables, meat and the occasional fruit.

If we skip this legal mumbo-jumbo, we can face the problem from a different perspective. What’s so special about your relationship then? If you hug other people, do you say that “when I hug my _one and only_ the hug is _much different_"?

Do you also have a different type of kiss too? Do you also have a special way to stick your tongue in other people’s ears (such that regular folks get the ‘normal’ version, while the special person gets the ‘full’ version)?

The matter gets pretty complicated, so you have two approaches here:
- take the way of the lawyers, and try to define what a special hug is and how it is different from a regular hug. Do the same for other gestures. Eventually you will end up with a book as heavy as DEX and still have a blurry definition of what a hug really is. OR maybe it will be clear, but you’ll have to read the entire book before each hug, to make sure you’re not doing anything illegal :-)
- the easy way is to abolish hugs completely, thus simplifying the problem in a radical way :-)

I rest my case.

mi-ai amintit de filmuletul asta http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=wJfYAJJYMqg
aproape m-ai convis:) totusi cred ca o imbratisare ce nu depaseste 3 secunde poate fi permisa(ca in scolile americane:))

:-)

De ce 3 secunde? Ce poti sa simti in 3 secunde?

cred ca asta e - nu poti sa simti multe, e doar o forma de salut

Adica ii oferim ceva unui om, pentru ca stim ca ceea ce ii dam - nu are o valoare?

Hi Alex!

Totally get what you mean by misinterpreted gestures, but then I noticed you highlight it depends on the person/situation (ie. jealous person etc.).

I wanted to add my scenario reading this for you to consider.

What if a hug is just a gesture of endearment, period?

- gf/bf gets hug
-people you care about and feel that way towards get hugs
- people you want to make feel ’special’ get a hug

And as for the jealous, or those with various view points of what a hug is specifically meant for (or to say) - it’s not their business, they can hug who they want on their own terms no problem!

As for what makes it ’special’ then when you are with the special somebody? The fact that you’re not hugging them to make them feel special (ie. as you would a very good friend you have not seen in a while etc.), but that you genuinely care about them etc. Whose to say you can only care about THEM? And finally, all the romantically inclined ‘kissing’ and other gestures I think people can sense when they are intended that way.

Bottom line - the special someone needs to trust they are special more than the regular friends, family, or even acquaintances you may think are also special ppl. the yshould know this by the fact that they are THE special someone in your life, the role speaks for itself I like to think.

anyway, just my take on it, let me know what you think of this. Thanks! :)

Hi Alex!

Totally get what you mean by misinterpreted gestures, but then I noticed you highlight it depends on the person/situation (ie. jealous person etc. and what is special about it then…basically the questions it brings up).

I wanted to add my scenario reading this for you to consider. What if a hug is just a gesture of endearment, period?

- gf/bf gets hug
-people you care about and feel that way towards get hugs
- people you want to make feel ’special’ get a hug

After all it is an expression.

And as for the jealous, or those with various view points of what a hug is specifically meant for (or to say) - it’s not their business, they can hug who they want on their own terms no problem!

As for what makes it ’special’ then when you are with the special somebody? The fact that you’re not hugging them to make them feel special (ie. as you would a very good friend you have not seen in a while etc.), but that you genuinely care about them etc. Whose to say you can only care about THEM? And finally, all the romantically inclined ‘kissing’ and other gestures I think people can sense when they are intended that way.

Bottom line - the special someone needs to trust they are special more than the regular friends, family, or even acquaintances you may think are also special ppl. the yshould know this by the fact that they are THE special someone in your life, the role speaks for itself I like to think.

anyway, just my take on it, let me know what you think of this. Thanks! :)